Sagacity Voyage

Does every problem has a solution? Or  We adjust, adapt, compromise and create a space where problem and solution co-exist.

Vo taaron pe kapre sookhte dekh,gali wale dhobi bhaiya ko khushi to hoti hogi. Vo sabji wale bhaiya ki awaz sunkar, gate se bhag kar kisi ko aate dekh, bhaiya ko khushi to hoti hogi. Vo khali makan par naye parivar ko aate dekh, kaam karne wali didi ko khushi to hoti hogi. Vo chai ki tapri se meeting mai jane walo ke dhool wale joote dekh, mochi bhaiya ko khushi to hoti hogi. Yunhi to ek doosre se joodi hai hum sab ki khushiyan. 

You want to play with kitchen set! Are you a girl.  Why are you crying ? Are you a girl! You make roti? Are you a girl! Such statements are commonly made, when a boy wants to play with any such toy or does any thing which is tagged as girl's stuff. Why are we still living under these preconceived gender biases?  My son plays with kitchen set, I buy for him.He helps me in kitchen, folds his clothes and much more. There is no particular color, game, toy or any stuff assosiated with any gender at my home. Let the kids be kids and not a boy or a girl. Let them explore and make their choices. They are children and know only to play, don't put them under your gender lens.

When your 4 years old and his not so old friend (19 years old) are fighting, shouting, jumping on your head. You make them play an interesting game. The one who keeps quiet for the longest will be the winner. After three trial rounds, we managed to get peace for 1mimute and 45 seconds.

You become Mother the day you have the little one in your hands. It doesn't matter : If it was planned or surprised, If it was normal or c-sec, If it was IVF or adopted, If it was in ur 20s or 30s, If you were single or married, You are the mother when you hold your little one for the very first time. Each mother knows best for her baby. Let's not be judgemental and support every mother. #HappyMother'sday

 I read somehwere it is no sense to keep digging into the mistake already done.Instead talking about future course puts you in correction mode.   I had practical experience of this some times back. My 4 years old in  fight with his father shrieked and shouted some slang words in anger. After a while, as per normal process, we started the CID process, where did you learn this? Why did you say this? Did you see some video? How can you say this?  He was all quite and not responding at all. No exprrssion at all. I changed the track and said, OK! we are not getting into from where you picked and why you said. Promise you will never say anything of this sort again. He promised! He responded! There was a change in expression, a positive one. At times,digging into things doesnot help, set the future action. Try it :)

Any advise or suggestion will either add value or leave you in the same position. If not adding, will not be lessening either. Welcome them with all your heart