Don't seek happiness from others

 Anecdote from my personal life and experience:

When I and my husband  went on our first vacation in Malaysia , we did not know much about each other. I am really foodie,  I like to eat and explore variety of food. I wanted to try local delicacies and variety available their. But whenever I asked my husband,  he would say he does not want to eat and I should go ahead. 

And I really used to get offended on this part that why does he keeps saying No, why can't he just try new stuff. Is he boring , miser, irritating and what not. This all used to lead to irritation,  frustration eventually spoiling the mood and time. 

 But on our second, third and so on trips he  became my partner is enjoying the local delicacies of the places we have gone.Now the same person was not saying no but instead himself trying and enjoying.

Probably then he did not have interest in eating the stuff in foreign land,  and was apprehensive of the food their, or may be be was just not in mood their to eat and explore much.. But when I look back and learn from the experience is why was I seeking my happiness from him. If I wanted to eat I should have gone ahead and enjoyed instead getting irritated and spoiling trip..

When you seek your happiness from others even if they are your closed ones you are going to  eventually get hurt. Enjoy your own preferences and company.


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